Normalising domestic violence through pen has become so common. At first it was reserved to  Facebook only but now we get to see it on Instagram as well. 

What is domestic violence? 

Physical assault, wilful intimidation and abusive behaviour to your partner is known as domestic  violence. 32% women in Pakistan ( National Institutes Of Health) while 30% percent women worldwide are victims of  domestic abuse (World Health Organisation).

Fame and Domestic violence:  

Urdu is well known as one of the most sophisticated languages spoken. A wide range of new  social media writers are taking part in this beautiful literature. 

Unfortunately there is a concept that has been normalised lately. The concept of getting fame  through writing domestic violence. The wrong concept of telling women that suffering abuse  quietly is patience. Promoting the concept that if women suffer quietly, their men would be  healed. It’s an absolutely wrong and absurd mentality. The idea of getting fame using this concept is  pathetic. Allah has blessed you with a pen, you shall be using it for good purposes.

Psychology of domestic abusers:  

Domestic abusers; They are mentally ill. They express their strength, their anger on their wives  because societal norms have portrayed women as weak. Such people don’t get cured. There  may be a few examples where women remain patient and their men get recovered but it’s as such  finding salt in sand. 

 Writing it in the novels and promoting the wrong idea, for example telling people that the hero is  rude, arrogant and abusive. At first the hero abuses the heroine mentally then physically and even  beats her up to death. Then saying that the heroine remain patient and then finally comes a time  when this beast turns into a prince as a reward of her patience. It’s an absurd fantasy. Isn’t it?

Words and Imagination:  

What we eat, what we see, and especially what we read. All of these have a strong impact on our  brain. Reading books have a hold on our imagination. What we read changes our way of thinking.  For example; If we are reading a good novel we wish to have that one cool fictional character to exist for us…. Just like that! if we read abusive novels we make that one rude character our  desire. 

Promoting domestic violence through pen and giving views on such serious topics. We are literally  making fun of those women who have suffered domestic abuse.